I walk into the home of a laboring Muslimah…As she paces back and forth, looking for a way to cope with the sensations of labor, she realizes that there is no way out except to give birth. It is that moment that I get to remind her of this hadith:
Narrated ‘Aisha: (the wife of the Prophet) Allah’s Apostle said, “No calamity befalls a Muslim but that Allah expiates some of his sins because of it, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn.”
-Sahih Al Bukhari
I gently remind the laboring mama that her body was meant for this, by Allah’s Permission. No burden is ever placed on us that we cannot bare. This is one of the great perks of having homebirth and with a Muslimah midwife! Birth is a very spiritual event. In a space that is safe, peaceful, and surrounded by constant reminders of Quran and Sunnah, the chances of losing spiritual focus is decreased. Some sisters feel awkward or even embarrassed to play or recite quran while in hospital and birth center environments, during labor. At a homebirth, the space of the mother, father and midwife allows embarrassment- FREE time for engaging in thikr and worship. We love to remind mothers to repeat “Laa ilaha illallah” (There is No God except Allah) or “Bismillah, tawkawtu al lillah, Laa hawla wa laa kuwata ila billah” (In the Name of Allah, I trust in Allah, there is no power or might greater than Allah).
Giving birth is like jihad for a lady. And if a Muslimah dies while birthing, she is taken as a martyr. The Prophet Muhammad (salla llahualayhi wa salaam) said:
“There are seven kinds of martyrs other than those killed in the Way of Allah. Someone who is killed by the plague is a martyr, someone who drowns is a martyr, someone who dies of pleurisy is a martyr, someone who dies of a disease of the belly is a martyr, someone who dies by fire is a martyr, someone who dies under a falling building is a martyr, and a woman who dies in childbirth is a martyr.”
-Sahih Al Bukhari, Muslim
There is an absolute need for duah and thikr during labor.Home is an environment where a Muslimah can be more secure in protecting her private parts from being seen by many. Indeed, Hayaa (modesty) is a key factor for a Muslim lady:
Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, “Faith (Belief) consists of more than sixty branches (i.e. parts) and Hayaa (This term “Hayaa” covers a large number of concepts which are to be taken together; amongst them are self respect, modesty, bashfulness, and scruple, etc.) is a part of faith.”
In a hospital and birth center setting, a sister’s modesty is fully compromised. Sometimes she is exposed to other men and random women that she’s never even met before. In most cases, her husband isn’t even sure how to protect her hayaa in those arenas. Homebirth is the better option for a healthy Muslimah, for certain.
*Aishia Muhammad TM (Traditional Midwife) Al Muslima And Motherhood Birth Services Affiliated with Mother2Mother Birth Services Umbrelled by Balanced Health & Alternative
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